BOBW The Friendship Club

BOBW 16 I would like to take a moment to say that it is important for you to contact your local representative and to let them know that you support net neutrality. Net neutrality is defined as, “ the principle that Internet service providers should enable access to all content and applications regardless of the source, and without favoring or blocking particular products or websites.” I don't know about you, but I do not want my internet provider (Comcast) to be able to charge me more just for watching Netflix. Not only that, but they could charge Netflix extra as well! That is double dipping and the only double dipping I appreciate is in a nacho bowl. Do us all a favor and go here to help stop Internet providers from taking over the world. Support Net Neutrality. Now that the brief civics lesson is done, how about some friendship? I want to mention my go to move to start a conversation. I have talked before about how all people have things in common. I think my firs...

BOBW 15 I would like to dedicate a few posts to reconnecting with old friends. Most of us have had friends in the past we lost touch with, and it would be interesting to look at ways to say hello to them once again. Here is what I have found. The step is to find the friends you want to reach out to. You can do this through social media, or maybe you have their phone number? Also it is nice to be prepared when you are out doing errands or something and you see an old friend or acquaintance.  And if you don't have either of those, you could just do some good new fashioned cyber stalking. You know like looking through their work place's facebook page, or blood samples. I am not judging.  Here are some more tips to meet up with old friends. One you can try is to meet up with a mutual acquaintance. They might be likely to know of the old friend you are looking for. You can contact the school you both went and try using the alumni organization's resources. And then you...

BOBW 14 I have had a lot on my mind lately, and I was not able to come up with a social challenge for myself last weekend. I am definitely ready to step it up because lately I have just been feeling good about myself. Anyway here is the friendship challenge I have in mind. It is not much of a challenge, but the idea is to talk to the people that work at an establishment, also known as employees. This idea comes from two things, a terrible terrible alcohol fueled night I had recently, and employees are paid to be nice to you. It is easier to talk to an employee, because it greatly decreases the likely hood that the person will act negatively toward you. Now also keep in mind, tipped workers will pretty much always be friendly with you even if your friendship banter is not as good as you think it is. Because of this, make sure any connections you make a genuine before continuing. Another point that makes talking to hired help interesting is that the workers might enjoy a break from...

BOBW 13 It is that time of of the summer! I may be a couple weeks late, but I'm going to talk about it anyway. Big Brother is back CBS. It is a pretty big deal for me, because this is a show that has made me want to get out of my shell and better myself. It pretty much can be said that it came up with the friendship idea. Okay it probably can not claim the word friendship, but it spread it around quite a bit. So here are two of the things I love about it brother. 1. The Social Experience This is a reality show were 16 people from different backgrounds, live in a house together and evict each other 1 at a time. They play games to win prizes, and to further themselves in the show. They do all this for prize money at the end. How far would you go to win half million dollars? Would you lie, cheat, and steal? These 16 people are also trapped in this house so they always go crazy and turn on each other. Big Brother is an great social experiment, and I love to see how it changes p...

BOBW 12 When you see a pretty young lady across the room, the thing men are taught to do is offer her drink. You stumble up to her, mumble a greeting and then ask, “Can I buy you a drink?” She will typically respond with a yes and once she gets that drink BOOOOOOOOM she is gone like Sonic the hedgehog after spotting a chili dog cart. OK it does not always have to go like that but that's pretty typical from a male point of view. So why not spend that money on someone who will appreciate it? Buy that drink for a fellow man! He will be much more likely to assume you have no agenda and accept the gesture of friendship you are putting forth. I had this realization when I saw guy dancing at a bar and he spilled his drink and looked completely defeated. He gave a bit of a smile and said, “Oh well!” Then he headed to the bar for another drink. I thought to myself, “Would it not be nice if I replaced his drink, and struck up a conversation?” That would be out of the ordinary and it wo...

BOBW 11 In the spirit of practicing what I preach, I decided to take a trip out this weekend. My memory is still a little fuzzy due to plenty of alcohol, but I will do my best to recollect the night. It started out just like any other night, the clock hit the 10 PM and that means it was time to suit up. I wanted to check out a particular spot called the 8 bit Beercade. This place is fun twist between a bar with plenty of interesting beer options and a video game arcade as the name suggests. The concept is very similar to what I want to do, so I thought it would be best to see how it works up close and not sober. I walked in and was greeted by the typical bouncer and the bar is the first thing upon walking through the doors. This is perfect, because the establishment has its priorities set. Sell drinks! I bought a drink and walked around taking in the atmosphere. The set up was great. It felt good to walk around and watch all the games being played. One thing I really liked abo...

BOBW 10 AAAACHOOOO boys and girls what is up? It has been a long journey, and I just want to take the time to look back at what we have done so far. I have made a few lists up to this point and I am proud to show them off again starting with the top four reasons to get up off your booty and do something this upcoming weekend. The post I am talking about lets you know that after a long week it is good to celebrate and just say, “Hey you made it!” And that is as good a reason as any to celebrate. You also have to meet people to make friends and maybe you will have a very good night. You never know! Top 4 reason to go out. The next post I digging back up is the friendship blog list. This post is about a long lost blog that left us on June first. But all hope is not gone! There is a Facebook group you can join to keep sharing stories about friendship, ask for advice, or whatever you may need on your friendship journey. Throw a post on the proper gender's board and you ...

BOBW 9         If you have not gotten a chance to check out my review of Dale Carnegie's book  How to Win Friends & Influence People, what are you waiting for? This book is the basis to what friendship is all about. It puts the friend in friendship. You know on second thought, I do not really know how those jokes work. Anyway some of the surface level stuff I love about this book is that it is easy to read, it is interesting, and it is almost like reading a bunch of different books at once. What I mean by that is the book tells a bunch of different stories. It uses these stories to help us readers understand how friendships can be form, and how to better yourself at being social. The stories range from political figures to murderers but they all share themes in common of communicating better, and understanding people.          The book even have a list of the topics covered such as: 1. Get you out of a mental rut, give you n...

BOBW 8 For today's post I want to talk about a TV show that is about friendship, Entourage. Because this blog is about friendship with a side of brotherhood, it makes Entourage perfect for this.  Entourage is show that ran on HBO from July 2004 to September 2011. The show follows a young up and coming actor and his friends from his hometown of Queens New   York. As I said before the theme of the show is friendship, and it also has situations of living in Hollywood. I personally loved the show. The situations were funny, and I loved the agent, Ari Gold the most. He is always abusing people in the most hysterical ways. It is fun to watch his character develop, and he also helped create a couple memes.  Another part of the show I enjoy is the theme of friendship. The show has these awesome friends playing pranks on each other, giving wonderfully bad advice, some good advice, and loving each others company just like a fantasy. They have their issues, but these ...

BOBW 7       So let's get back to my blog. What I'd like to do is narrow the scope now that I've gotten a little bit of experience, and I've looked at some other blog sites and learned some more about blogging. This is a friendship blog. Everyone is looking for it, and I want to explore how to find it, nurture it, and explain it in a clear understandable way. There seems to be a market for this type of blog and not a lot of competition as I struggled to find other blogs to find inspiration in this subject. It will be a challenge, but I kind of like it that way.       My blog discusses friendship and how its forms, and occasionally a personal story if something interesting happens. I try not to talk too much about the business this blog was inspired by. I try to post once a day, but end up posting twice Monday through Thursday. This is strictly beginners advice. I have no degree, unless you count an associates backed up by a sociology class. ...

  BOBW Post 6 Now I mentioned last time that I would look into the most popular friendship blog, and now I'm going to tell you what I found out. Wait, it's gone? 1. The first thing to know about this blog is that it was shutdown on June 1st of this month. I just missed out on being able to take part during the blogging. Where is all the Friendship blogs? I noticed that friendship blogs not existing is a restated point from the blog post yesterday. This blog was at the top ranking in its subject of friendship. It also was one of the first blogs in that subject. It is still Alive? A pretty cool thing I noticed was a link to a Facebook group that continues the discussions about friendship from the blog. It is too bad you have to request to get in the group before you see the actual posts. They should consider making it an open to join group. It is nice that the blog didn't just disappear forever. And that people could find some where to reconnect...

BOBW Post. 5 I was doing some research about friendship blogs, and it turns out there is not a whole lot of friendship blogs. I did find something on Crowd sourcing Life about 10 must see friendship sites. So I'll check that list out next. For now I want to talk about Crowd Sourcing Life blog. Right off the bat, I love the name of the blog. It combines business and relationships together. The author posts once a week in conversational, lecturing, and sometimes host like tone. I would say Sarah, the host, is an advanced expert opinions on the subjects she covers. Sarah is a researcher who studied 18 years of community and connections. She is a certified life coach as well so this is another piece of her blog that makes better content. And lastly this isn't the only blog she writes on. I just love how it the blog links up with the title so well as the author posts websites, podcasts, and books to better life. Overall, I like the content of the blog, I wish I had thought o...

BOBW Post 4. http://bobwclub.blogspot.com/2017/06/bobw-post-1.html Continuing the quest for friendship with some new objectives. Practice your skills. I know from experience that is easy to get rusty on your social skills. I remember tearing up campus back in the day. I started at the community college, and a determined freshman me decided he wasn't going to let being at a “lesser” school determine the outcome of the year. I reconnected with a friend from high school in the same situation and we did some silly stuff. You see there were 4 sports teams at this college. There was girls and boys soccer, baseball, and softball. So we decided to give the girls soccer team a surprise. We show up with a sign and covered in body paint, to a crowd of like 15 people, and we start ruckus! The crowd is going nuts and the girls started playing out of their minds! They came back from a 2 goal deficit to win. I was speechless. The soccer team gave us a shout out and it was like we were apar...

BOBW Post 3. Top 4 Reason To Go Out This Weekend Because it's been a long week. Work is hard, school is hard, and everything in-between is hard too. That is all the more reason to shake off the routine and hit up a great night spot. It is a lot easier to get through the week with something to look forward to. It doesn't even always have to be a bar or club. Maybe you're in the mood for sports so find a pick up game of basketball, or a internet cafe for some gaming. So get out there! Because it is hard to meet people from home. Sure you can whip open your tinder app and swipe right to every guy or lady that shows up, but do you know what you'll find? Axe murderers probably. Okay, they might not all be bad, but if you go out you can at least scan people with your own eyes before even saying hello. Because Netflix without the chill is no bueno. You can sit there all night, and devour a half season of The West Wing, or you can choose to d...

BOBW Post 2.      I received an invite to my high school classes Facebook page. Why it took them so long is beyond me. I was on the football team for goodness sake! OK fine I was almost on the football team. Looking back on life, high school was a fun time. I still remember going to my first party which is what started this project of mine. My best friend and I walked in full of undeserved bravado. And it worked for us. We were having a good time and showing everyone involved with us a good time too!      It took a lot of aging to find out what all those good times meant, but I'm getting there and I still have a long ways to go. I'm going to try my best to summon that high school version of me, so that I can take his energy and spread some more love during my last young adult years. If my goofy message of friendship can touch even one person, it would be so worth it. JP

BOBW Post 1.      Part of the quest for friendship is knowing what to say. There is a whole bunch of information out there on what to say, but it is best to start simple. Let's start with hello. Well that was easy, but what comes after?       Small talk of some sort usually. How is the weather? That is the go to joke we all see in movies or on TV. This is because we all have that in common. We all live in the world, we all can look up in the sky, and we all experience the same weather. That's why strangers like to talk about the weather. Surely you have an opinion about mother natures touch on your skin? 

 About Me Hello there! My name is JP and I'm the architect of this seemingly ridiculous project. I was born and raised in a medium sized town in the middle of five siblings. I love my family, but sometimes it's hard to remember all the birthdays! Anyway, I bet you are wondering about this friendship stuff? Well it is simple. I want to make friends, and today I discovered that literally EVERYONE is trying to make friends! Who would have thought that we pretty much all have so much in common right off the bat. After all, companionship is one of life's many needs. So why don't you stick around and join the fun. I like to think of myself as a simple man. I enjoy nights out on the town, playing video games, drinking booze, good company, working out, Netflix with no chill, Music, cooking and you know the usual stuff. I have a lot of different interest, everyone else has lots of different interest, and its fun to try different things. At this time in my lif...